Bridesmaid dresses?

Ok so originally we had dresses picked out but recently the dress became unavailable in the color we wanted... I'm now looking at bridesmaid/maid of honor dresses again... would it be a good idea or not to have them pick their own dresses? I really don't care since I'm not the one wearing them and I'm about to tell them ok maid of honor in silver/platinum and the bridesmaids in lilac, find a dress. Is that a good idea or should I pick the dresses? I could give them free reign or give them a list of like 10 dresses to chose from? What are your thoughts?

Bridesmaid dresses?
You can give them free reign but ulitmately it should be your final choice. If your friends have good taste you have nothing to worry about.
Reply:I tried to do this... I told my maids (three of them) that they could pick thier own dresses in the color I had selected. I thought they could coordinate with each other to make them look cohesive together but be flattering to each body type as each girl was different.


They decided that they thought it would look better to all wear the same style... than I had to find a dress that looked ok on all of them that was a reasonable price....





I wish we'd just gone with the picking thier own out... it's nice because than you can be sure they like them... and they will still "match" because of color...





good luck!
Reply:I have picked out 10 dresses that I really like for my bridesmaids, then letting them choose the one they each want. We are having them made in the same colour, and although they get to choose their own dress, I feel safe that they're not going to choose anything that I don't particularly like. I would suggest checking out ebay for wedding and bridesmaid dresses. Some sellers (in China) sell them SO SO cheap, I got my wedding dress for under $200, custom made to fit me and colour of my choice.





Good luck %26amp; Congrats!
Reply:well, I dont mind the same dress different colour thing, or the same colour different dress thing, but I think the different dress and different colour (for the MOH) is a bit much. I would at least set some limits to it...like pick your own dress but all have to be either floor length or tea length. at least keep the lengths the same so it looks a bit pulled together.
Reply:NO, don't ever go and let them choose their own dresses - they will undoubtedly argue over what style to choose and they will look mismatched and it will not look right if they aren't wearing the same one. Choose about 5 and let them decide from there if you are confident in their decisions.
Reply:If you are open to it, let them pick, but you should have the final say on it before they buy them. Show them some styles that you like and are appropiate and then just ask that before they purchase the dress, you can atleast see it first. If someone wanted a dress that was "perfect" and you didnt look at it first, and on your wedding day, you see the most hideous dress ever on a bridesmaid, you would regret not having final approval.


Good luck on your pending nuptials!
Reply:Pick the colors (as you have) and the designer so you are sure that the "lilac" is the same and give them a few guidelines - - such as "no strapless" or "pick floor length" or "don't pick something that is irridescent". Then let the girls go to town.
Reply:I got my girls to choose their own dress but i gave them a few guidelines.





I told them that they could pick any colour they liked as long as they would BOTH wear the colour again on another occaision - not just for a wedding


That the dresses were to be the same style and colour.


That i wanted the dresses not to be full length


and that i would prefer for the dresses to be strapless (the same as my gown) but as long as the dresses were the same i didn't mind.





I took them down to the bridal shop, put on my dress and let them run wild with my limitations. They had a ball coming in and out of the changerooms in different styles and colours and checking if they suited my gown. They picked a really nice purple colour in the end in a cut that matched really well so we were all happy. I still had up my sleeve the option to change the shade (eg dark to light to pastel) but i didn't need it in the end.





Perhaps you could do this for your bridesmaids too.


You could ask your MOH to search for platinum/silver dresses at a particular length and the girls for a lilac in the same length (maybe even the same dress available in both colours) or specify a neckline/length/colour/fabric as you see fit and make an outing from it. You could also specify if the dresses need to be the same or if they will wear them again (if they are buying their own) or different to suit the person underneath.





If the main thing you want is for them to match alongside you, try your gown on again and let them see things side by side



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