How do I deal with an argumentative friend?

I've noticed over the past few months that a good friend of mine is being very argumentative. No matter what I say, she has to argue with it. We could be shopping, and I'll admire a lilac shirt...she'll say it's actually lavendar. I could suggest that we meet for lunch at an Applebees in a certain town, and she'll say that the Applebees is actually in the next town over.





Seriously, she'll argue with everything I say, no matter how trivial. I'm not sure if I just noticed it, or if she's only started to do it. It's getting really annoying, and I want to say something to her about it. But considering how argumentative she's being, I don't want to get into a huge argument about it.





She's also under some stress because she's getting married in June (but she has a wedding planner who is doing everything for her, so she isn't as stressed as you might think...I've seen many brides who are much more stressed).





What do you think is the best way to approach this?

How do I deal with an argumentative friend?
I have to say I agree with most of the answers already given. Talk to her about it. E-mail might not be the best way to approach someone, but it definitely gives you and them time to respond and think before you speak. You know her better than anyone else, so you decide.





Definitely let her know that your friendship is important. It could be her upcoming wedding that is affecting her. Even though she is not "planning" everthing herself, it is a big step in life. There are a lot of issues involved and can affect you in different ways. Maybe her trying to perfect everything you say is really her trying to make sure that her life is perfect, or wanting you to feel like her life is perfect. Maybe she isn't perfect but wants everyone else to think so.





These are all things to consider. Talk to her about it and try to focus on you and how you are feeling and try not to make it all about her and what she is doing wrong.





I hope you understand what I mean. Good luck!
Reply:Is it just the arguing, or is it other things?





When I went to college I had a best friend. We had been in school together starting in 7th grade, and we were always together. She started arguing with me like this, and it came down to it was her way of trying to end the friendship. She didn't know how, so she thought if she picked a fight with me, we would fight and quit talking.
Reply:Just agree and then there is no place for your friend to go with it.
Reply:I definitely think you should talk to her about it. How is she supposed to improve if she doesn't realize it's a problem or that she's even being argumentative. Since she does have that tendency to argue, I would actually share your feelings in an email...That way she can take some time to think about it instead of face-to-face potential combat. Try to word the email as nicely as possible and stress that you appreciate your friendship with her...You just want for things to be improved between the two of you. I know that this must be frustrating- Kudos to you for trying to come up with a solution instead of just whining about it! Good luck!
Reply:IF I WAS YOU I WOULD JUST IGNORE HER BECAUSE IT AI NT WORTH HAVING A MATE WHO IS A TOTAL COW TO YOU IS THERE. TRUST ME HONEY SHE WILL REALIZE WHAT AND WHERE SHE HAS GONE WRONG AND IF SHE DOSE NOT THEN JUST DROP HER SHE AI NT WORTH THE STRESS.
Reply:Don't hang out with her! I mean why would you want a friend that is such a downer??





Or just "argue" with her about the fact that she is so argumentative... then you both will be mental weirdos!
Reply:Well the best way would be just to sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Explain to her that it seems like you two are arguing a lot more and that you don't want anything affecting your friendship. It's probably due to the wedding, even if she does have a wedding planner. Ask her if there is anything bothering her or stressing her out and then ask if she needs help with it. Hope this helps. Good luck to you.



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