Wedding date issues.?

My fiance' previously agreed with my idea of a May wedding with lilac, pale silver, and white for colors. Now he isn't so sure that he wants a spring wedding, and is favoring fall. I love fall as a season, but not for weddings. Where we live the weather isn't always nice, and I'm not fond of fall colors in a wedding i.e. red, orange, etc. And my spring color scheme definitely couldn't be used for fall...could it? *Sigh.* I really had my heart set on May.

Wedding date issues.?
jjudijo I completely agree with you! Talk to him and tell him how much you had your heart set on a may wedding. You would be surprised how much they will agree with if you just talk about it!
Reply:Why does he want a fall wedding now? He isn't getting cold feet is he? I mean to push a date from the beginning of the year to the end of the year. Either way, your wedding will be beautiful with the colors you've chosen despite the season. I got married in December and it was cold but my day turned out perfect. I wish you the best!
Reply:I would not change the color scheme of your wedding with the exception of making the purple a little more rich, or the silver a little more bright. To be honest though, the colors dont make the wedding. That is a small thing that can be altered in any direction to please you both. The colors you have now to be honest as well, are just fine for fall...





If your fiance has his heart set on the fall, would he be willing to compromise to the beginning, rather then near the end so that the weather would be more complimenting for the occasion? The badder the weather, the less guests will be able to attend.





My wedding date changed from winter to fall to summer all within a 6 month period. I finally laid it out on the line that there will be no more changing of the dates. I wanted it warm enough for guests to come, but cool enough so they werent dying outside. We chose the first weekend in June after all deliberations. What worked best with me was that i told him it was cheaper to do it then instead of waiting even a week or two later, when wedding season is in full swing.
Reply:I guess instead of lilac you could use a darker color of the same purplelish maybe in lavender or aubergine. It's your wedding so it's your decision not the season. I would ask him why the delay for two season or six months maybe he is getting cold feet
Reply:You can still have lilac as a colour, but maybe paired with a darker purple as an accent. Skip the silver.


But don't plan anything til a year before the wedding! If you don't even have a date set, just don't bother.... yet.
Reply:Set him down and talk to him. Most guys understand that the women look forward to this day more then any other day! Tell him how you feel and give him the sad eyes (only if that works). Let him know that you have dreamed of a May wedding with your colors and him beside you. Also tell him all of the plans for the wedding that you have come up with. Also tell him your fear of how the weather may not be all that you dreamed of on your wedding day and how much you would love the sun to shine on you. If that don't work, just order the invitations and send him one! (lol)
Reply:You can use any color you want... it does NOT have to correspond with the season.





Wouldn't life be boring if we could only wear certain colors based on the season?





If your wedding is in the fall, there is not reason to change your colors.
Reply:Go with Winter. Winter wonderland. Silver and white...sparkles everywhere. What a Heaven-like atmosphere! You could really do a lot with winter weddings.





Congrats :)
Reply:Tell him that you respect his wishes but the flowers you have picked out for the wedding are cheaper in the spring. Trust me anything cheaper he will go for it.
Reply:You know, you're getting married, not staging a play.





Don't worry about the colors so much. Think about when you feel ready to marry, and think about the rest of your life together. That's more important that how the whole thing looks.
Reply:Unless he has a solid reason, he is hedging. Also, there is not a lot of time to get this all together by May 2008! Maybe that is what he is thinking.





The bride has the call of the wedding plans. Give it up, boys. Just grin and nod and everything will go much nicer for you. lol :)
Reply:Theres a lot of spring colors out there...





And you don't HAVE to use fall colors if you get married in the fall...esp if you aren't getting married outside...i think its fun when a couple creates a scene for their guests....like if its 10 degrees outside...but the reception has a tropical feel, the guests can get away from the real world outside...or creating a winter wonderland when its summer outside...you can use this opportunity to let your imagination go wild and have any kind of wedding YOU want regardless of the season of the wedding date.





Hope that doesn't sound too silly to you...its just a diff way of looking at it...you get your colors and he gets the date
Reply:Why the big deal about if the colours suit the season if you like them have them no matter what season you have. Geez some ppl need to get a life.
Reply:You do not have to stick to fall colours for a fall wedding, that's silly, you are not bound by season, whenever you get married your colour scheme would work, it's about hat you want not about what the season dictates. Compromise on the date, keep the colour scheme the same, everyone is happy.
Reply:It is the bride's prerogative to set the date. Sounds to me like the guy might have second feelings about getting married. What kind of an excuse did he give you for wanting to postpone the wedding for six more months?
Reply:No the colors you picked aren't exactly fall but you could compromise for a summer wedding, early summer before it gets to hot, but the weather varies depending on where you live. I personally never want to get married in may, but I was born that month so I was never that into the idea. But also your colors especially the silver and white would look good for December and January, but you have to like the season.
Reply:use the colors you want.........and i'm gonna jump on the band wagon too.......i thot you married according to your heart not the season.so why is he messing up ya'lls plans for a wedding 6 months on down the road........think ya should just find a justice of the peace next week end and then plan a nice reception and use the color of your choice for the decor....wedding are over priced and don't make the marriage any better. happy trails...... ok....gotta add...weddings a biggie for some but just not me..it's a private and intimate, and i prefer not to have an audience..i'd rather share the joy w them at the reception. so to ea their own..talk and decide what works best for both of you
Reply:do fall.. it really is a nice time of year.. im from nj so the weather isnt always beautiful either, however with all the running and nerves you may appreciate a cooler day (i got married in FEB and was still sweating!). As far as your colors.. use a plum in there to bring it down, but you can still totally accent with your lilacs and silvers!
Reply:I had my wedding in October of 2004..just as the leaves were changing. We held it on the 9th, so the weather was still relatively warm, and we got gorgeous pictures with the changing leaves for the background..AND..our colors were light purple, light blue and white...for a FALL WEDDING. Who gives a da*mn if your chosen colors are "fall colors"...its your special day..do it up the way YOU see fit.





You should also have a talk with your fiance to see WHY he's, all of a sudden, changed his mind (and drastically I might add) about the time of year he wishes to marry you. Keep us updated!
Reply:Hi. Personally, and it's just me...I'm thinking that brides are too caught up in the "color" thing. Yes, you don't want to have a pale yellow perhaps in mid-February if you live in Minnesota. But what's wrong with lilac, silver, and white in the fall? I think it would still work! Or...if you have not already ordered the gowns, you could go with a darker purple color.





It seems that you are concerned about the colors, so I am assuming that you don't have any deposits down that you would lose if you change the date to the fall?





In any case, I think you could still go with the colors you have for the fall. My personal opinion, though.





Good luck!
Reply:You need to sit down and come to an agreement with your fiance. It is not the end of the world if you don't get your way; but the important thing is that you can talk about it and make a decision together, since it is a wedding for the two of you. And don't get so worried about the "colors" - what is important is the marriage itself; don't worry so much about the wedding and the decorations. I am sure you can be very creative and adaptable when you find the right rationale. There are thousands of colors out there - but only one of your fiance.
Reply:whenever you want
Reply:set your date first and iron out the other details later.. your colors could still work if they work with the venue.. and there is no rule that you cannot use pastels in the fall.. my friends got married in Sept and their bridesmaids wore dresses that were powder blue with white underskirts..





if you feel like the pale colors on their own are too pale for fall get black dresses for the bridesmaids and use the lavendar and silver as accent colors..
Reply:Make it in winter. You colors will still work.
Reply:Second thougths on his end no question, and some guys just don't want to get married so they put it off and off and off. Can you get him to give you a list of reasons of why he wants to wait? Talk to him use reason, lodgic and a calm voice, and if needed take a friend while you talk with him about it. I wish you and your fiance the best of the best.
Reply:Love is stronger than the ceremony. The main point of the wedding is that you two can be married in front of your friends, family, and relatives. The season for the wedding is only minor, as long as you love each other, and want to be together. Some couples who don't have a lot of financial resources end up with very simple wedding, but they live a really loving life, enjoying each other, and celebrating every moment in life together. Don't get too stress about details of the wedding. It should be a really sweet and enjoyable experience for you.





Relax, and talk with your fiance. I am sure you two will come to an understanding. As long as you want to be together, any season is a good time for a wedding.





Good luck! I wish you a beautiful wedding.
Reply:You still can use them. Perhaps upgrade the lilac to a deep purple, or change the silver to a gold or chocolate brown? Or keep them as it is. You don't HAVE to keep colors with the season, just that most brides do.





Why is he changing? Make sure when you pick your wedding date that it works for years and years. I'm a teacher so even though I think spring would be lovely for my wedding it's horrible because of what's going on at work. I would have trouble really blocking out time to celebrate later on after the wedding.





Look on the bright side. If you have a fall wedding you'll save some dough since it's the off season. :P
Reply:I'm sitting here and wondering if there is a deeper issue here that you might want to ask him about.





Why does he want to get married in the fall, instead of the spring? Is there a reason that he is not yet ready to get married?





My concern is this: while the color scheme may make the day more perfect for you, what is important is what happens the day after you return from your honeymoon and from that point onward. Before you set a date, make sure that you both are willing to make the commitment for a permanent and loving relationship.
Reply:you can have any colors for your wedding any time of the year. you need to learn compromise.
Reply:I've never heard of a guy who cares about the date of the wedding because he favors one season over another. My husband favored a summer wedding because it would be easier for us job-wise and because it would give us more time to save money. Find out the real reason he wants to postpone the wedding, and come to a mature compromise about the issue.



beauty quotes